What I Would Tell My 20-Year-Old Self...

I often think back to my college days and whether my choices may, or may not, have directed me to where I am today.  And the answer is a resounding YES.

The beginning of my college career was interesting.  I started off as pre-med / pre-pharmacy, and I KNEW I didn't want to pursue a career in healthcare.  Why I did it, you ask?  Because my parents wanted me to.  Not that they wouldn't have been happy with me having a career in business, but because in their generation, a career in healthcare meant stability and job security.  I struggled for nearly two years to tell them I didn't want to pursue their dream.  All the while, I was still taking courses I had absolutely no interest in.

Once I broke the news to my parents, I realized I was on my own now.  They knew nothing about any industry outside of healthcare.  I was left to navigate the rest of my adult life... by myself.  Scary!  

Over the second half of my college years, I found a major that was broad and useful in many aspects of "business".  I had two minors where I explored interests I had - like real estate, property management, and language skills.  In that time, I took internships in the hours I wasn't working or in school.  Some of those internships were absolute disasters; I'd go home hating my life and dreading the next 2 hour day I had to work.  Some of those internships really piqued my interest, and I continued searching for positions in the same category.

In the end, my decisions absolutely led me to where I am today.  What I didn't realize when I was 20, I realize now.  They say "hindsight is 20/20", and that couldn't be closer to the truth.

• Things are going to be hard.  Sometimes, very very hard... and both physically and emotionally draining.  And when you think you're going to give up.  Don't.  You have the capability to push through any tough phase because that's all it is - a phase.

• Don't study/pursue something just because someone else "wants" you to, or tells you to.  Your interests are your own.  You are a unique individual, and no one can tell you what you'd be good at.  Figure that out on your own.

• Take a personal finance course.  Once you realize you don't have the financial support of anyone else but yourself, you have to know how to best utilize your assets.

• Take a social etiquette course, where ever you can find one.  You may think it's ridiculous to learn how to fold your napkin when you walk away from a table, but you will likely have many business dinners in your future where this will come in handy.  

• Take a course in interviewing / resume writing.  Believe it or not, interviewing is a skill that can be taught.  And just as you learned how to write essays in middle-school, it's time you learn how to draw up a great resume.

• Start networking.  And never stop networking.  You never know when the person you are talking to in your 20s, will be the next-big-thing's CEO.  

• If there is only one thing you take away, make it this.  This is a marathon, and not a sprint.  You are not going to accomplish what you want without a few bumps along the way.  But each speed bump is just a reminder to keep yourself motivated, and to keep pushing forward.

What Happens When You Assume...

I oftentimes get asked by friends to make edits to their resumes.  I actually really enjoy doing this.  It allows me to do a few things:

• Sharpen my own skills
• See where "the norm" is for resume writing
• Realize where a lot of people go wrong

By example, I recently was helping a friend edit their resume.  The resume went back and forth with some edits, both on formatting and content.  My friend's final draft came back with a note saying, "I took your edits and am using them as a guideline for interview questions, and I have answers prepared for them."  The suggested edits were not in the resume. 

I cannot emphasize this enough - DO NOT ASSUME.  Do not assume anything.  Do not assume you will GET that interview to tell the interviewer your answers to the questions he wants to hear.  Do not assume that the recruiter knows what you are talking about when you say "Displayed great communication skills" (what does that even mean??).  

Leave nothing to chance.  If you want someone to know, tell them.  You may feel it will sound redundant if/when you get that interview, but at least you have covered your bases.

So, as you are preparing your resume, ask yourself:

• What do I want the reader to know?
• What do I know about my skills/qualifications that the reader does not?
• How can I explain this to a reader who doesn't have a background in what I do?
• How can I show the reader that I am good at what I do?
• How can I make myself stand apart from everyone else?
• What kinds of questions would the reader have for me? How can I best answer them?
• How can I make my resume easy for the reader to pinpoint me as the best candidate?

Good luck!  And, as always... I'm all ears!

Does this make me look fat?

Congratulations!

You have been invited for an onsite interview at the company you've had your sights on for months.  Aside from being prepared for the interview (e.g.: reading up on the company, knowing about the person/people you will be interviewing with, having a list of questions you want to ask them about the company and the position), deciding what to wear is just as important.

I tend to go by the rule, "You can never be overdressed."  This is true in almost any scenario.  This is especially true in interviews.  Whether you're interviewing at a chic start-up company in Silicon Valley (y'know, the ones that wear flip flops and baseball hats to work), or a prestigious Fortune 500 company, I suggest the following guidelines.


Men

• Dark suit.  This means black, brown, navy.  Solid color or pinstripes.  Please, no obnoxious plaid or polka dots.
• White shirt.  Go with the crisp, white, button down shirt.  Leave the print and colored shirts for the holiday parties.
• Tie.  I feel this is optional.  But, should you choose to wear a tie, go with a power color - blue or red.  Make it your "statement" piece.
• Dress socks.  You laugh, but I'm serious.  Please wear tall dress socks.  I have had candidates come in wearing white tube socks.  
• Nice shoes.  Polish them.  Make sure the laces are not tattered.  Shoes say a lot about a man. 

Women

• Dark suit.  Again, this means black, brown, navy.  Solid or pinstripe.  Skirts are ok, but keep them conservative - no more than a couple inches above the knees.  Although, I do feel like women have a little more flexibility in this option.  I don't feel a jacket is always necessary, as a sweater (in a neutral, solid color) should do just fine.
• Simple jewelry.  Don't wear anything that will distract you, distract the interviewer from you, or that will make a lot of noise when you move (think: bangles).
• Pull your hair off your face.  Yes, bangs are pretty.  But no one wants to see you fumble with that piece that gets in your eye one too many times.
• Same rule applies.  Wear nice shoes.  Flats or a shoe with a 1-2" heel should work just fine.

As shallow as it may sound, first impressions are everything.  You will be judged by what you are wearing, how you present yourself, your handshake, your eye contact, and your confidence levels.

Someone I know once told me, "Look good, feel good, play good" [SIC].  Couldn't be further from the truth.

If in doubt, keep this in mind:

GOOD LUCK!

We Are Always Watching...

Social media outlets provide great insights to a potential candidate.  Let's say I find someone on LinkedIn Recruiter that I think looks great for the position I am looking for.  I will be the first to admit (and many recruiters will) that I am not only looking at your professional profiles, but I am going to look at your Twitter, Facebook, Google Plus, Yelp, and/or any blogs you write for or own.  I not only want to get a sense for who you are as a professional, but I want to see how you will be as an employee.

People make assumptions.  Lots of them.  How many times have you looked at someone's Facebook profile and said to yourself, "Joe Shmo is always partying" or "Mary Jane's updates are always her complaining about something".  I'm sorry to break it to you, but recruiters are doing the exact same thing.  We are people, after all.  If we see something we don't like, it may cost you an interview - or worse, a job offer.

So, what's killing your social networking profile, you ask?

Inappropriate pictures.  Mentions of excessive use of drugs and/or alcohol.  Complaints about work, or your boss.  Bad grammar.  

Employers are trying to get a picture of who you are as a professional, who you are at work and outside of work, how you interact with your colleagues.  Ultimately, they are trying to figure out whether you will be good for the culture, or whether you will be a parasite for it.

My suggestion:  Google yourself.  See what pops up.  Would a future employer be pleased with what they see?  Would you offer yourself a job?